As I travel around the internet, I’m struck by how many people are struggling with different issues. Our society is more connected than ever before yet many people seem so very isolated and troubled. I’m going to tell you something. Yes, you.
If you’re struggling with depression or other mental health issues, it’s okay. Maybe you don’t feel okay, and things aren’t okay, but it’s definitely okay that you feel out of sorts. Don’t hide from it and, more importantly, don’t hide from people who can help you. It may seem like you’re facing insurmountable hurdles and nothing will ever be all right again but, as The Bloggess says, “Depression lies.” It tells you things that I promise aren’t true, including “no one cares and there’s no way out.” Yes we do and yes there is. If you’re in a difficult place, please let someone help. Call a friend, call a hotline, or call me. Just call someone. It’s okay.
If you’re struggling with LGBT issues, it’s okay. There is nothing “wrong” with you and this isn’t a secret you have to live with alone. You don’t have to come leaping out a closet wearing a cape and ready to take on the world, but you don’t have to deal with it by yourself either. There are people willing to support you in whatever way you need. Call a friend, call a help line for advice, or call me. It’s okay.
If you’re struggling with domestic violence, it’s okay. Your situation is not okay, but it is okay to ask for help and get to safety. No one will judge you, no one even has to know. There are trained people ready to help, it’s what they do, so please don’t try to “tough it out.” Call the police, call a domestic violence hotline, or call me. Just please call someone. It’s okay.
If you’re struggling as a single parent, it’s okay. Don’t put on a brave face thinking that you’ll seem weak by acknowledging that single parenting can be hard, lonely, and thankless. It can also be wonderful, liberating, and joyous, but if it doesn’t feel that way now, don’t be too proud to ask for help. Call your friends, get in touch with a support group, or call me. It’s okay.
Life isn’t always easy and it seems these days that acknowledging the tough times is akin to weakness. I’m here to tell you that’s simply not true. It’s okay to be sad, hurting, or struggling. That doesn’t make you less of a person, it makes you human. Anyone who tells you different is full of crap. It’s okay to ask for the help you need. This is me, giving you permission.